Vulnerability Keeps You Safe

Vulnerability is actually a way to keep safe. This may sound completely paradoxical to you. Because it seems like, if we see life simply as cause and immediate effect, vulnerability is always a dumb move. If you were to share something deep about yourself, there is a nonzero chance that someone could make you feel bad about it in response. But if you don’t share, then there is zero chance that they do.

But that math only works for the moment. If you continue to not share, eventually your potential partners will be incredibly put off. How can they know they can trust you with their heart if they know nothing of substance about you?

So vulnerability will keep you safe long term. It’s like putting money in a 401k. The more you share, the more comfortable the other person becomes. And the more comfortable they become, the more likely they are to want to keep you safe